Dress shopping anxiety

I know a lot of my friends do not feel that dress shopping is as awful as bathing suit shopping, but for me it absolutely ranks right up there. I also know that I sound a bit dramatic about this, but after spending over three hours in a department store this week (with the world’s most patient saleslady) only to walk away empty handed, I’m feeling a bit deflated about the whole experience. 

We have roughly four dressy occasions on the calendar already this spring and I really need to get at least two new dresses, but shopping for them is bringing to light all my personal body image issues (not to mention the realization that you can actually see the pounds I put on this winter when I take off my coat!)  So, rather than risk wasting even more time and another dressing room melt down, I’ve decided to comb my favorite online shops, have all the dresses shipped to me, try them on in my softly lit house, along with my heels (and my spanx) and literally keep calm and little black dress on…

If your body issues are anything like mine, you’ll appreciate this round up of “bra friendly”, not too short, not too tight and nothing shiny, selection of cocktail dresses I’ve created below.  I’d love any feedback on some flattering dresses, I’m all about feeling comfortable, since it’s really the only way to look great in my book!

Top image via: Caroline Daily

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  1. I feel your pain! And this weekend's 70 forecast has me in a panic about taking off my coat! Loved your approach to this blog post!

    Published on 4.18.14 · Reply
  2. Love all of these LBD selections Sue, just my style!

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  3. Love them all. No 2 is my favorite!

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  4. Anonymous wrote:

    But only one with sleeves! Aaagghhhhh!

    Published on 4.19.14 · Reply
  5. Jennifer Dengel wrote:

    Sue, you are not alone with those winter pounds… I loved your selections. My suggestion–why don't you give Diane Von Furstenberg dresses a try. They are flattering, feminine and comfortable. Believe me, I speak from experience!

    Published on 4.19.14 · Reply
    • Jennifer, thanks, I love DVF, but the few I tried on this season were cut very short:( Usually those are my "go tos"…

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  6. I am right there with you! But, I did find the perfect dress at Bloomingdale's last week. You may want to check it out. It comes in ivory or black and it is made by French Connection.
    Will try to find the dress and will send you the link. SUPER flattering and meets your criteria — and mine! 🙂
    Hope you find something perfect!
    A 🙂

    Published on 4.19.14 · Reply
  7. Sue, their website does not show the black version, but if you call them, they have it!
    Here is the link to see it in ivory. I bought one in each color.
    http://www1.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/french-connection-dress-lolo-stretch-classics?ID=996114&CategoryID=21683&LinkType=#fn=BRAND%3DFRENCH CONNECTION%26COLOR%3DBlack;;White%26spp%3D16%26ppp%3D96%26sp%3D1%26rid%3D9%26spc%3D35 items in Dresses

    Published on 4.19.14 · Reply
    • Thanks Alison-LOVE this dress, but the form fitting description has me a bit panicked…might give it a whirl in one size larger…TY!~

      Published on 4.19.14 · Reply