A Personal Note-

“losing love
Is like a window in your heart
Everybody sees you’re blown apart
Everybody sees the wind blow”

-lyrics from Graceland / Paul Simon

 

My father- my dad, passed away peacefully yesterday morning at the age of 90. It feels a bit weird to announce something so deeply personal here. But, this loss felt too big for me not to honor it.

Years ago, when I first started this blog, my dad (at the age of 80) was one of my first loyal readers. I remember seeing his photo in my Google reader follower count and getting such a kick out of how up to date he was with technology. I think he got a kick out the fact that I was finally getting back to my “design roots” – he was a graphic designer and an art director, back in the Mad Men days of advertising.

Anyway, I don’t tend to get too personal with stuff here. I like to keep it mostly, if not all – design and style related. NOT because I’m trying to fool anyone into thinking my life is picture perfect. Rather, it’s because talking about aesthetics and fashion, interior design, etc. can be such a great distraction from most of life’s challenges. At least it is for me. Which, at the end of the day is why I’ll probably be back to regular blogging and social media sooner than later.  I’m going to need this…

XX,

Sue

 

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56 Comments

  1. Beth wrote:

    So sorry for your loss 🙏

    Published on 3.6.19 · Reply
  2. Wendy wrote:

    Beautiful tribute ❤️😘❤️😘

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  3. Susan wrote:

    So sorry for your loss, I just had the third anniversary of my father’s passing on March 4th. So hard, but remember how lucky you were to have him in your life for such along time. Hang on to the great memories 💕

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  4. Laurie wrote:

    I am so very sorry for your loss … hoping you will find some small solace from knowing that all of us that you have touched with inspiration, beauty and – yes – relief from this same, so hard circumstance are with you in spirit and sending love (however odd that virtual notion may be, we all feel it and it becomes real).

    May those memories be blessings that you hold close always, and that hold you in return.

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  5. Marty wrote:

    I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

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  6. Taylor wrote:

    Sorry for your loss, Sue. Your closeness with him has always shone through when you’ve shared about him.

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  7. Lynn Rudder wrote:

    Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family for the loss of your father. You add such a bright spot to my day with your blog. I know he was so very proud of you and all of your many accomplishments.

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  8. Sandra Hinds wrote:

    So sad for your loss – your Dad sounds like a lovely man. My prayers are for you and your family.

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  9. Emily wrote:

    I’m glad you got personal. He deserved this acknowledgement. My thoughts are with you Sue.

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  10. I am so sorry for your loss.
    Shelley

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  11. Cari Kingsley wrote:

    So sorry to hear this xo my thoughts and good vibes for are with you
    The only healer we have is time xo

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  12. Gina wrote:

    My deepest condolences. Thank you for sharing and I love any song from the Graceland album – always poignant for life’s moments.

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  13. Jaynee wrote:

    So very sorry for your loss.

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  14. winnie wrote:

    I am sincerely sorry for the loss that you are feeling today and will be feeling in your heart for a very long time. I always say,” A Daddy is a girl’s “first boyfriend”. He sets the tone for her entire life. It sounds like you were blessed with a wonderful Daddy. May all you memories be wonderful and feel like Heavenly Hugs! ~W~

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  15. Carolyn wrote:

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad.
    Please know that you and your family are in my heart.
    Sending you lots of strength and love.
    XO
    Carolyn

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  16. Karen Welt wrote:

    Sending you and your family love and support. Just coming up on my dad’s one year anniversary of passing. It is never easy — keep all the good memories at the forefront during this difficult time….

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  17. SANDY M wrote:

    I’m so sorry, Sue. My dad is 94 and I try and brace myself for the inevitable someday but it’s impossible to really do that. My thoughts are with you and sending you virtual hugs.

    Sandy

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  18. JuleTheBee wrote:

    Perfect, eloquent, beautiful tribute
    You done good
    Xx

    Published on 3.6.19 · Reply
  19. Bebe wrote:

    I don’t see how anyone can deny that their life is ever the same after the death of their parent. It’s been 19 years since my father’s death and although the grief isn’t nearly as raw as it was at first, I still miss him. My heart goes out to you and will pray for you as your tender heart is healing.

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  20. Kelly Seymour wrote:

    Sue, so sorry for the loss of your Dad. Lifting you and your family in hugs and prayers.

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  21. Ilene wrote:

    So sorry for your loss, I know what it’s like to lose your dad.

    Your posts, blogs do bring happiness into each day.

    We used to live in Weston, CT and miss being there

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  22. Shirley wrote:

    So sorry for your loss. May your family be especially blessed during this difficult time.

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  23. Carol wrote:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself during this difficult time.

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  24. Christine Salek wrote:

    Sorry for your loss.

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  25. Kat wrote:

    So very sorry for your loss. I hope that your happy memories of him bring you some comfort.

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  26. Nancee wrote:

    I’m so very sorry for your loss. Thoughts are with you. Hang onto those great positive memories, as you daily remember what a great influence and encourager your dad was, to you.

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  27. Oh, Sue. I know personally how tough this is. I am so very sorry about your Dad. You know that he is always in your heart. And now you have your biggest fan in heaven!!

    Blogging will help.
    XO
    Deb

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  28. Carolyn wrote:

    My sincerest condolences on your loss. Thoughts of peace sent you & your family’s way

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  29. Barnali Guha wrote:

    Such a profound note to honor your beloved father. May his soul rest in peace and hope you can spend some time reflecting on the glorious times spent together.

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  30. Liduh wrote:

    I am sorry for your loss.
    My deepest condolences

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  31. jackie wrote:

    I’m so sorry to hear. I lose my dad Aug 12 2016 an every single day he crosses my thoughts. it’s a loss you only understand if you have experienced it. no matter how sad we feel there’s hope. acts 24 verse 15 and John 5 verses 28 an 29. you an I have never meet of course but I just had to say something.

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  32. Julie wrote:

    I’m sorry for your loss, Sue. May the warm memories of your father bring you strength and comfort.

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  33. kathy wrote:

    Oh, Sue. That is indeed very sad news. Sounds like your father was a great dad. How lucky you are! Wishing you peace at this time.

    Kathy

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  34. Ivy wrote:

    Very sorry for your loss….

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  35. Ann Melamed wrote:

    I lost my father 10 days ago. My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope you can take comfort in knowing that his finest qualities live on in you.

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  36. Beth wrote:

    I am so sorry for the loss of your father. May God hold you near enough for you to feel Him now when you need Him the most!

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  37. Jennifer wrote:

    Thank you for sharing. Peace be with you.

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  38. Karen frank wrote:

    so sorry for your loss.

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  39. JoInCt wrote:

    So sorry to hear about your loss. Let your good memories of your dad sustain you.

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  40. catherine wrote:

    thanks for sharing about the departure of your father.May the fact he read your blog and certainly has been so proud about the success oh his baby and her blooming through this beautiful blog be a great relief for you in your sorrow.Ithink of you

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  41. Susan Toye Ferguson wrote:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. A father’s love is something so very special to a daughter and can never be replicated. I will remember you in my prayers.

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  42. Melissa wrote:

    I will say a prayer for you and your family.

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  43. Laura wrote:

    I’m really sorry for your loss.

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  44. Holly wrote:

    I am sorry Sue. So happy I had a chance to know your dad when I came to sleep over your house during our post-season camp get-togethers. 10 years ago when I was freshly dealing with the loss of Howie, you graciously invited me to come to Vermont with your family to take my mind off of my heartbreak. You were just starting Zhush and we spent time looking through magazines and it was really amazing to watch your stylish self come to life to share with others. So thank you for the distractions that you have provided for so many of us when we need to escape somewhere beautiful and stylish at the same time.

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  45. elaine wrote:

    Hey Sue. I am so sorry for your loss. Enjoy the days coming to celebrate his life and all he brought to yours. Peace be with you.

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  46. Nancy wrote:

    Losing parents is heart bending. Sending you my warmest regards.

    Published on 3.7.19 · Reply
  47. michelle wrote:

    I am sorry for your loss.

    Published on 3.8.19 · Reply
  48. Michele wrote:

    So sorry to hear about your father. Prayers to you and your family.

    Published on 3.8.19 · Reply
  49. Theresa kincaid wrote:

    It’s the hardest thing in the world….losing a loved one! Prayers are prayed for you and your family this morning…..May it bring you peace to know that although he isn’t here ….. he is always in your heart!

    Published on 3.8.19 · Reply
  50. Pat wrote:

    So sorry for your loss. Sweet to read how your dad followed your blog. ❤

    Published on 3.8.19 · Reply
  51. Oh Sue, I am so sorry!!! Dads are such special people and I know losing yours must be heartbreaking!! I am thinking about you and sending lot of love!
    XOSissy

    Published on 3.8.19 · Reply
  52. Janene wrote:

    Hang in there. I’m in a similar situation and I’m grateful for bloggers like you who take me away into a world of blissful distraction if even for a few minutes 😌

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  53. Barbara J Heins wrote:

    I never comment on blogs…but I feel your pain and loss 10 years out from my father’s death, but my mother died 2 yrs ago ..and I know the hardest part of adjusting is that youfeel abanded.like you are an orphan. I can only tell you to keep the memories and know you are whole. When we lose our parents we lose a part of who we are, but nothing can take that away from us.
    Bless You

    Published on 3.8.19 · Reply
  54. Jeannine wrote:

    I’m so sorry for your loss.. I hope in the days ahead your wonderful memories will ease the pain of your loss.

    Published on 3.9.19 · Reply
  55. Jackie Paez wrote:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace in your cherished memories.

    Published on 3.10.19 · Reply
  56. Gray wrote:

    Sue, I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet dad. I think it’s wonderful that you posted about this, in tribute to him. I am starting a blog for ladies of a certain age, who are in a transition, some of whom might be grieving a marriage, a job, or a loved one, like me. I don’t think grief is talked about enough. Thank you for this conversation.

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